as she sits all alone in the darkness of the night
she asked herself if this is the right thing to do
she searched her heart
there's love and hurt
there's hope and pain
the past is too strong to deny
the present is confusion
the future holds a thousand question
she thought she had found the answer
yet she cries through the day
is she really doing the right thing?
she wished she really knows the answer to that.
Dear God, please help her.
posted by Fazleen M. @ 8:01 PM
10 Comments:
Don mean to intrude ur private life.. but why r u letting go of a great guy who has stood by u all this years?
No one has an answer for the future. People make their own destiny. From my eyes, he has been working towards this.. working hard to attain & secure a bright future so that he can provide for u.
Everything he does, he has U in mind. Can't u see tt, babe?
Greetings, i just read your blog. It seemed quite distressing for you. I left my boyfriend of 11 years while he was in his varsity. I questioned my self the same things as you did. There were times i wanted to get back into the relationship which i did not; and was brave to stand by my decision. I realised our ideals and personalities were rather stark different and somehow figured that my commitment was diminishing and the spark for 11 years gone.
In that time i got to know a new person whom shared the same ideals and goals as me and i guessed that person was the one for me. Eventually after a year knowing him, we are engaged and getting married this Dec.
Getting over a relationship where the spark and ideals are gone is an uphill task, but given time as the medicine, it does help you forget. God knows if there could be a Prince Charming who could fulfil your wants and needs.
Just food for thoughts...
Hi pity your situation. I have been caught in a similar spot before. Questioned myself if i did the right thing. My boyfriend pleaded with me to come back but i decided not to. In the end, we broke up for good
I would say that you should hang on since you have decided and that could be the very best for both of you. Definitely a party would be hurt but it would be better to get hurt now than later.
I think you should make sure that this break up is based on reasons much more credible than the mere fact that your ex bf is still in school and has a long way before getting himself established and financially stable. I think it is not fair to him because both of you saw that coming way before things got serious. Just because people around you are getting on with their 'real' lives, getting married and making a career for themselves, you don't have to be pressured to want the same things right now. But if there are really other issues and that you think there is no longer that spark in the relationship, letting go should not be a difficult thing.=)
Not sure of your situation actually but based on your decision, you must have thought things through and decided that your decision is the best.
I went through a breakup after 6 years. God knows how difficult it was to let go. I am not sure of your boyfriend status but at that time my boyfriend was studying and the same issues about our future kept cropping up since it was so uncertain.
I figured out that getting into the relationship again could mean grappling with all the issues one more time despite the willingness on his part to make things better. I followed my heart and decided not to turn back and realised that it was the best decision alrite.
God gave me the guidance and found me the man of my life immediately after the breakup and we are anxiously happy waiting for our first kid.
So hang on there...be strong. God bless.
never let go of a good guy.even if u do find someone, it wouldn't be as good as what u once had.That's how the world works my dear.but i do wish u the best for ur chosen path,watever it may be in the end.
U doesn't look gd recently, seems lik u had a real bad time.
I'll shall giv u a chocolate tmr n u will noe who m i. :>
you dont look good, not doesn't
seems like you are having a real bad time, not had
I'll shall?
bad english tsk tsk
Wow.. It's that easy to let go of someone after so many years yah..? Confusion is a state of mind that can be overcome, and I mean what?! After so many years in a relationship with him you're still confused? I mean come on... If you think he's not good enough for you then I guess you should know after that long and there should be no confusion. But from what I see, your EX is the most dedicated guy I know; and this coming from me, a guy. Never have I seen a guy who's set his goals for the future so confidently like he does; and may I add that it's for you. That takes a lot of MATURITY from him and RESPECT for you my friend. Plus he's so loyal, never glancing even at another girl but that mental pic of you in his mind.
If you're saying you're not good enough for him though, no matter how noble it sounds, is just an excuse. Pardon my honesty. All these people who leave comments like it's ok and how they've found the "one" after getting out of a relationship what do they do now? If they're in such a great relationship, why aren't they spending their time with their husbands but would rather leave comments on your blog in the wee hours of the nite (11+ pm 12+am jees).
And what about sparks and ideals? Don't you share the same ideals as he does? After many years of mutual agreement? Have you changed your ideals or has he? Lost the spark in the relationship? It's your duty and his (I'm sure he's that determined) to find that spark again, to make it work. You don't just leave a relationship because the spark is gone. How then after you get married? After many years of marriage just get divorce if the spark is gone? Please... I thought women are more mature...
Whatever it is, the deed is done. I pray that he'll be fine and so will you. He has a great future ahead, a man full of ideals and inner strength. I hope that down the road you do not regret the decision (as you aptly described as being the best for you "BOTH") as he will no longer be waiting for you behind the door that you closed in his face... He would have moved on and found someone else and by then it'd be too late to realise or regret. Cos then his loyalty and dedication would be concentrated on the girl who'd stay with him, through THICK and THIN, God bless. By then I hope you'd be happy cos the decision was for the best of you both...
-Cabotz-
hey.. just happened to chance upon this blog entry. so thought i leave a comment too..
you know i always believe that in life everything happens for a reason. the possibilities are endless..
perhaps God wants something better for you. or perhaps God wants to test your strength. or perhaps.. just perhaps.. this is a test for both of you.
whatever it is, i just hope both of you will come out of this stronger than ever.
they always will.. =)
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